Gay Sex & DF
The Problem Every Promiscuous Person Has
By Alex Orue
February is here, and Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. One of the most chaotic days throughout the year is almost upon us and will set us apart from each other, from the ones that have a Valentine to spend the holiday with, those who are looking for one, and those who just lost theirs.
What it is about this day that will make the most sane person go totally mental? Here in Mexico City you can feel the mood in the air almost right after New Years. Guess we latinos are as passionate about these things as others have portrait us.
Everybody strives to have it all in life. Both in their personal and in their professional lives, but most can only focus in just one, being “the personal life” the hardest one to maintain. Can we really have it all?…
Almost two weeks ago I started dating a really nice guy. The kind of guy that will consider your opinion for pretty much anything on a date, but independent enough to have a say in it and be heard. He has an admirable job: a human rights lawyer. We hit it off right from the get-go and really began to share more than I thought I would. He’s taken me to really weird but awesome places on our dates, from the hipster choices in Condesa, to the 90‘s-stuck venues in Zona Rosa and downtown. However, he ain’t really the type of guy that I’ve dated (not complaining, thou).
Hear me out, I’m pretty complicated to match with given that I’m way too tall for many (I’m 6’4 feet, 194 cm), and I’m what people in the Community would consider an otter. He, on the other hand, is average height. I can overlook that, definitely, but I can’t help to look at us in our reflection every time we pass by a window. And as I say, he ain’t my type but in all honesty the guys I’d seen as “my type” were no close to endure longer than three months. Still, although Ralph (as he shall be referred) is way different from the others he applies to the CTS (Communication, Trust & Sex). I may be over thinking too much but to me CTS has always been three things that are not negotiable to make a relationship work.
“Communication” is all great. We both are a couple of bigmouths and have a twisted sense of humour and wit that love about each other, although we might’ve had a dreadful date last night and haven’t really talked about it (but given that we’ve seen each other pretty much on a daily basis I guess that one bad date doesn’t really count, does it?). The “Trust” thing ain’t a problem, I’d guess. We’ve told very intimate things about our past and I’m quite positive he’s not gonna take me by surprise with any biggie, so in short, he does make me feel safe. But when it comes to sex, well, we are taking it slow (or whatever that means). We’ve only done it once and I’m feeling like I’m back in high school all over again. Dry season? So soon? Or is it just the kind of thing people do when they want to start something serious? Honestly, I’m asking because I ain’t an expert on these things (God knows I’m a serial monogamous).
Does the “sex” issue reflect a lack of communication and trust? Should I clear things up about my expectations or should I let this grow naturally like I intended?
I might sound like a promiscuous guy, but aren’t we all gay men? Are promiscuous people just those who have sex more often than us? or is it only subjective?
Although sex ain’t it all in a relationship, it certainly does have an impact on the level of chemistry that people have, so I can’t help but wonder: Is sex really on the same level of communication and trust?
In its first session of 2014, yesterday the Chilean Senate advanced its civil unions bill. The Santiago Times reports:
Senators voted in favor of the Life Partner Agreement (AVP) late Tuesday evening with 28 votes in favor, six against and two abstentions. The bill will now pass to a constitutional assembly before returning to Congress on Jan. 20. The country’s leading LGBTQ organization hailed the outcome as significant step toward passing a law which “the majority of the country” wants. “We are happy for this significant progress towards bettering conditions and equality for all families, regardless of the sexual orientation or gender identification of its members,” a Homosexual Integration and Liberation (Movilh) statement read. “Today we have made one more step in the struggle for civil unions, which we began a decade ago. What was a dream is now becoming real.” Introduced to Congress in August 2011 by the administration of President Sebastián Piñera, of the center-right National Renewal (RN), the bill has endured a drawn-out two years of debate and stalling, mainly because of stiff opposition from the RN’s coalition partner, the right-wing Independent Democratic Union (UDI) party.
A group of evangelical protesters were ejected from the Senate gallery shortly after the vote.
I haven’t wrote or blogged much for a while. I’ve been only active on Twitter by retweeting stuff I find interesting or worth sharing. The reason? Now that I live in Mexico City I figured that lots of stuff have been accomplished and that the fight for our rights is pretty much over. However, looking back at the pics I took at the last Gay Pride Parade I realised that it isn’t quite true, yet. Actually, we still have a long way to go.
Usually, we as a community, we seem quite organised, right? The thing is, when it comes to important issues we are more lost than a twink’s dignity at Pride.
In Mexico, we only see what’s on the news overseas. It’s quite rare that somebody pays attention to what the progress is in our own country. And when Pride is around the corner it’s only about the party and Grindr like in most places, but unlike most places we don’t really get to see the leadership of the movement nor do we know how the progress is accomplished. If you’re not in those circles, it’s hard to get in.
I’ve been browsing the web to see who the hell is organising Pride this year, and I’m still wondering…
I might just start a journal about my efforts to get involved. Let’s see how this goes and how far I can go.
So, why do I say the LGBT Movement in Mexico is stuck? Cause after the progress made in some States in the country (with civil unions and gay marriages recognised nationwide) there has been little improvement in our educational system and in most States where hate crimes are at the order of the day. We are only visible one weekend of the year, while our opponents are visible at least every Sunday of the year.
Dear Mom and Dad,
This is what happiness looks like. Sorry you were so miserable in your own lives that you couldn’t allow me a chance at my own. I went out and found it anyway. I miss you, and will miss you even more this holiday season since you won’t allow me to come back home unless I have a woman on my arm. Oh by the way, we’ll still be using the family recipe for the stuffing, I’m sure it’ll be a hit with our friends.
Your son, his boyfriend, and our spoiled cat
Happy #Thanksgiving, y’all❗️ Whether you’re spending it with the family you grew up with or the one you chose, have a blast ;) 🇺🇸🌹👬👫👭🌈
(Source: queerone, via that-guy-james)
Clayton Pettet (pictured), a second year art student at Central Saint Martins art school in London, plans on losing his butt virginity in front of a gallery full of spectators on January 25, 2014. He claims it will be an act of “performance art.”
The sweeping act of teenage narcissism deflowering will be titled “Art School Stole My Virginity” and will feature 19-year-old Pettet and his friend engaging in safe sex until completion. Afterwards, they will ask the audience what they thought of the performance. Because who doesn’t like to be critiqued after sex?
“I’ve held on to my virginity for 19 years, and I’m not throwing it away lightly,” Pettet said. “Basically it’s like I am losing the stigma around virginity.”
He continued: “Since culturally we do hold quite a lot of value to the idea of virginity I have decided to use mine and the loss of it to create a piece that I think will stimulate interesting debate and questions regarding the subject.”
We suppose when we were 19 we may have thought the same thing.
Pettet says he has been planning the event for three years.
“The key thing about performance art is that it should only be performed once, and this is the ultimate once-in-a-lifetime performance,” he claims.
Pettet also says he hasn’t told his parents about the project, but he expects it will earn him rave reviews with the masses for challenging the idea of sexuality.
We’ll refrain from making too much judgement now and will instead offer Pettet this piece of advice: Do an enema beforehand so as not to turn your act of sexual defiance into an act of public humiliation.
Oh, and be sure to use lots and lots of lube.
Well, let it be for the Art.
Wonder who’s his friend that will feature on the act?
ALIMENTACION EN MENOPAUSIA
La menopausia natural tiene lugar normalmente hacia los 50 años y es el paso entre la etapa reproductiva y la no reproductiva pero los primeros sofocos y sudoraciones pueden producirse ya alrededor de los 45 -incluso antes-, etapa conocida como perimenopausia.
Es un momento en el que disminuye en la mujer la producción de una hormona generada por la hipófisis (glándula rectora ubicada en el cerebro) llamada folículo estimulante y los folículos del ovario dejan de madurar y -poco a poco- de producir sus propias hormonas, especialmente los estrógenos. Consecuentemente, es necesario que a partir de los 40-45 años las mujeres se acostumbren a someterse a controles periódicos a fin de conocer sus niveles de colesterol, triglicéridos, glucosa, ácido úrico y calcio.
Los problemas de la pérdida de Calcio
Es necesario realizarse densitometrías óseas que cuantifiquen la cantidad de calcio. Ello permitirá prevenir las temidas fracturas óseas -especialmente de cadera-, más frecuentes entre las mujeres de edad adulta que en los hombres de la misma edad.
Ahora bien, recuerde que la osteoporosis es un problema de origen multifactorial en el que interviene no sólo la pérdida de calcio en los huesos por efecto hormonal sino también la disminución de la capacidad del intestino para absorberlo. Por eso tiene tanta importancia la existencia de hábitos previos de alimentación. La mujer que ha tenido un buen aporte de calcio en su infancia y juventud tendrá más masa ósea en la madurez y, por tanto, menor osteoporosis en la postmenopausia. De ahí la importancia de tomar alimentos ricos en calcio a lo largo de toda la vida.
Los Alimentos más Adecuados
Hay algunos alimentos que deberían formar parte de la alimentación habitual de la mujer a partir de los 45 años y, sobre todo, en cuanto aparezcan los primeros síntomas de la menopausia. Es el caso de los:
-Alimentos ricos en fitoestrógenos.
Como la soya y sus derivados (miso, tofu, etc.). La soja, además, es rica en calcio y rica en proteína vegetal.
-Las verduras y frutas frescas. Imprescindibles para una buena salud por su contenido en vitaminas, minerales y fibra. Son especialmente recomendables los cítricos, las fresas, el melón y el tomate por su aporte de vitamina C. Las verduras verdes como el brócoli, espinacas, chícharos, coliflor, col de Bruselas, son recomendables por su aporte de calcio. Y las frutas y verduras amarillas (especialmente la calabaza, la zanahoria y el durazno) son ricas en vitamina A por lo que ayudan a mantener en buen estado las mucosas y previenen el cáncer.
-Alimentos ricos en ácidos grasos omega 3. Especialmente los pescados azules y los aceites elaborados con ellos así como los de canola, soya y germen de trigo, algunas verduras (espinacas, lechuga y brócoli) y frutos secos (especialmente las nueces y almendras).
-Alimentos ricos en calcio:semillas de sésamo, frutos secos, nabos, brócoli, leche y productos lácteos (bajos en grasa) en calcio. Basta un vaso de leche desnatada, dos yogures descremados o 35-40 gramos de queso panela ó cotija al día.
-Los alimentos proteicos. Los pescados (especialmente los azules), las carnes magras y el pollo son los alimentos de elección como fuente de las necesarias proteínas. La carne debe tomarse sin grasa y se debe quitar la piel del pollo. Por supuesto, las carnes muy curadas y los ahumados deben evitarse no sólo por su contenido en grasas sino porque el proceso de preparación aumenta los riesgos de la salud.
-Los cereales. Además de una fuente fundamental de nutrientes son ricos en fibra por lo que deben ser parte fundamental de cualquier dieta y mucho más durante la menopausia. Son proveedores de folatos, es decir, en ácido fólico.
"We need more voices speaking up for universal human rights. We have honoured some of the great advocates here today who have spoken out courageously for women’s rights, gay rights and religious understanding, showing us that our communities and institutions are strongest when equality and opportunity are open to all people and freedom of conscience is respected. And it is important that as we chart our way forward in this new century, we bring with it the enlightened view that every individual around the world regardless of gender, religion, race, ethnicity or orientation, should be able to contribute to their societies and to have the chance to live up to his or her God-given potential."
- Hillary Clinton - —
- Hillary Clinton, speaking at Scotland’s St. Andrews University, where she received an honorary doctorate. It was Clinton’s first foreign visit since leaving the Obama administration. (Via The Scotsman)
Ok, it’s been a long time since I last updated this list, but this guy really deserves a spot on the list. And here’s why:
Speaking to Russian magazine Slon (and translated by the Straight Alliance For LGBT Equality), the politician compares gay people to ‘thieves’, ‘sinners’ and ‘corrupters’: "We view Europe as Sodom and Gomorrah. Europe must not tell us how to live. The Europeans can live any way they like, but they mustn’t tell us what to do. Of course [a gay mother] should definitely be deprived of her rights to the child. Homosexuals must not raise children. They corrupt them. They do them much more harm than if the child were in an orphanage. I am deeply convinced of this."
Last week he introduced a bill which authorises the government to seize the children of gay parents.