Davis, who is twice divorced, remains close to his family, which includes three sons, a daughter and six grandchildren, and to friends, with whom he vacations regularly.Soundtrack's aforementioned personal revelation acknowledges “something that my children and close friends have always known, but that I knew I would need to discuss in a biography”: He considers himself bisexual. "After my second marriage failed, I met a man who was also grounded in music. Having only had loving relationships and sexual intimacy with women, I opened myself up to the possibility that I could have that with a male, and found that I could." Davis is currently involved with another man (who isn’t in show business), “but I never stopped being attracted to women. Bisexuality is misunderstood; the adage is that you’re either straight or gay or lying, but that’s not my experience. To call me anything other than bisexual would be inaccurate.”
Davis has earned multiple Grammy awards and was inducted as a non-performer into the Rock & Roll Hall Of Fame. He’s credited for launching the careers of many legends, including Whitney Houston.
The ‘Die Young’ singer Kesha - who once claimed she had a sexual encounter with a ghost - has said she is bisexual, saying she doesn’t care about gender and loves women as much as men.
The 25-year-old star told the February issue of Seventeen magazine: “I don’t love just men. I love people. It’s not about a gender. It’s just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you’re with.”
The blonde beauty admitted she wanted to speak out about her sexuality to stand up for others who are bullied because of their sexual orientation, as well as for her brother, who is bullied in school for having a speech impediment.
She said: “I’m all about standing up to gay/lesbian/transgender bullying, but it’s also about my little brother. He’s 13 and he gets made fun of because he has a stutter. I just have zero tolerance for people making fun of others.”
Kesha previously revealed her new track ‘Supernatural’ was inspired by an erotic paranormal experience.
She said: “I also have this song called ‘Supernatural’. It’s about experiences with the supernatural … but in a sexy way … I had a couple experiences with the supernatural … I don’t know his name! He was a ghost! I’m very open to it.”
Frank Ocean Praised For Coming Out As Bisexual Through His Music
Pink News UK reports:
Musician Frank Ocean has revealed his first love was with another man when he was 19, receiving praise from those in the music industry for coming out while beginning to forge a successful career as a hip-hop artist. Originally intended for the cover notes of an upcoming album, Ocean pre-empted the release by writing about the experience on his Tumblr page, confirming rumours he said had been circling about his sexual orientation. Ocean, 24, is known for the hits Novacane and Swim Good and is due to release the debut album this month. He wrote: “4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost. And on the days we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I’d see him, and his smile. I’d hear his conversation and his silence … until it was time to sleep. Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless. There was no escaping. No negotiating with the feeling. No choice. It was my first love. It changed my life.” He added: “I sat there and told my friend how I felt. I wept as the words left my mouth. I grieved for them, knowing I could never take them back for myself. He patted my back. He said kind things. He did his best, but he wouldn’t admit the same. He had to go back inside soon. It was late and his girlfriend was waiting for him upstairs. “He wouldn’t tell me the truth about his feelings for me for another 3 years. I felt like I’d only imagined reciprocity for years. Now imagine being thrown from a cliff. No, I wasn’t on a cliff, I was still in my car telling myself it was gonna be fine and to take deep breaths. I took the breaths and carried on. I kept up a peculiar friendship with him because I couldn’t imagine keeping up my life without him. I struggled to master myself and my emotions. I wasn’t always successful.” Thanking those people who he says “kept him alive” after telling them his story, he writes: “To my first love. I’m grateful for you. Grateful that even though it wasn’t what I hoped for and even though it was never enough, it was.” Russell Simmons wrote for Global Grind: “Today is a big day for hip-hop. It is a day that will define who we really are. How compassionate will we be? How loving can we be? How inclusive are we? […] Your decision to go public about your sexual orientation gives hope and light to so many young people still living in fear.” Tyler, the Creator, a band-made of Ocean’s in Odd Future, wrote on Twitter: “My Big Brother Finally Fuckking Did That. Proud Of That N***a Cause I Know That Shit Is Difficult Or Whatever. Anyway. Im A Toilet.” Jake Shears of the Scissor Sisters said: “Go on Frank Ocean”, while Pete Wentz suggested his fans “be brave and real like Frank Ocean”.
Tyler The Creator, the leader of Odd Future (collective of which Ocean is part of), who’s been criticized for virulently anti-gay lyrics, has tweeted about this, in his very special touchy way:
My Big Brother Finally Fucking Did That. Proud Of That Nigga Cause I Know That Shit Is Difficult Or Whatever. Anyway. Im A Toilet.
United Kingdom: British MP Outed As Bisexual Following Phone Hacking
The Age reports:
A senior British politician who was outed by The Sun as bisexual — a revelation that might have scuppered his prospects of leading the Liberal Democrats — last night told the Leveson inquiry that he had experienced many problems with his voicemails that he did not realise at the time were due to phone hacking. Simon Hughes, MP, was standing as the front-running candidate for the leadership of the Liberal Democrats in 2006 when he received a phone call from a journalist at The Sun who said he wanted to speak to him about a private matter. They met, “and he then shared with me the fact that The Sun had come across information which was records of telephone calls made by me”. Mr Hughes said he “admitted straightforwardly” the matter relating to the calls. The Sun later ran a news story headlined, ‘Hughes: I’ve had gay sex’, and quoting him as saying, “It was wrong to keep denying it.” The story said, “In an exclusive admission to The Sun, he apologized for twice denying he is homosexual.” Mr Hughes told the inquiry the story did not entirely reflect what he said in the interview. At the time Mr Hughes was the front-runner in the contest for leadership of the party (which was won by Nick Clegg, who later entered the current coalition with the Conservative Party, prompting one political commentator to question whether The Sun’s story had changed the course of British politics). Mr Hughes said media then aggressively pursued “on a fallacious assumption” two of his friends, one male and one female, with whom he had shared phone calls. “They were trying to establish a relationship between me and these people, neither of which were what they wanted them to be.” Police later told him his phone had been hacked but gave him little information about how much they had uncovered, he told the inquiry. Mr Hughes said he was surprised and disappointed that only two people were taken to court following the initial investigation, and said there was a “complete failure” to investigate whether other people should have been charged. "It struck me as fairly obvious once everything was revealed, if you had seen the names of the other journalists from the same paper you would at least have asked some questions and got them in for questioning and investigate what their role was." He said if police had acted strongly in 2006, “a lot of the illegal action might have been shut down and a lot of the people who are now known to be victims might not be victims or might not have suffered as much”. Mr Hughes settled his phone-hacking claim with News International earlier this month for £45,000.
She’s cute and young and can hold her own among her fellow rappers, but the Harlem-based hip hop star Azealia Banks just got a lot more popular with the girls. Banks came out as bisexual in the New York Times today, telling the paper, “I’m not trying to be, like, the bisexual, lesbian rapper. I don’t live on other people’s terms… I’ve been out for three years, I’ve been around.” Labels or not, Banks hinted at her love of vag in her pulsating maxi hit, 212, the video of which has gotten something like three million views on YouTube. One lyric: “She know where I get mine from, end of season / Now she wanna lick my plum in the evening / And fit that ton-tongue d-deep in /I guess that cunt getting eaten.” The last line, in which Banks — like queer author Inga Musico before her — reclaims the C word, is repeated at least five times, in case listeners missed it. The Times reports that Banks is also one of only five people that Kanye West follows on Twitter, but it’s not just the world of hip hop who are taking Banks seriously. According to John Ortved, Gwyneth Paltrow is “obsessed” with her, as are a handful of fashionistas like gay designer Nicola Formichetti who styled her for Elle Magazine. Even better? Universal Music heard the buzz and inked Banks first real record deal for an album due out this spring.
Actress Cynthia Nixon is bisexual and that “is not a choice,” she said in an exclusive statement to The Advocate. The former star of Sex and the City who is now on Broadway in Wit has been the focus of heated discussion among the LGBT community because of a comment she made to The New York TimesMagazineearlier this month. "For me, it is a choice," she had said of being in a relationship with Christine Marinoni, who she has a child with and plans to marry. In a follow-up interview with The Daily Beast, she revealed that gay Episcopal bishop Gene Robinson will be marrying the couple. It was while talking to the Beast that Nixon, who was in a relationship with a man for 15 years and had two children, said she’s bisexual. And she admitted being leery of identifying by any label, especially that one. “Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals,” she told the Beast. Outrage spread online that Nixon might be saying being gay is not genetic, followed by discussions of whether it even matters. Now Nixon is clarifying her words in a carefully thought-out statement, with the hope that finally what she intended to say comes through. Read the complete statement below. "My recent comments in The New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay. I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can’t and shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering. However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify: "While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship. "As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex. "Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens."
Cynthia Nixon On Being Gay: “For Me It’s A Choice”
The Huffington Post reports:
Gay fans might have applauded Cynthia Nixon’s decision to come out in 2004, but her remarks in a controversial new interview might now leave them feeling a little incensed. Asked about skeptics who question the legitimacy of her relationship with longtime partner Christine Marinoni, the “Sex and the City” star, who is currently promoting her new Broadway show ”Wit,” told The New York Times: "I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not." Nixon then went on to note: "Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with." Prior to her relationship with Marinoni, an education activist, Nixon was involved with English professor Danny Mozes, with whom she has two children. America Blog writer John Aravosis was among those to criticize Nixon’s choice of words. “It’s not a ‘choice,’ unless you consider my opting to date a guy with brown hair versus a guy with blonde hair a ‘choice,’” he writes. “It’s only a choice among flavors I already like… every religious right hatemonger is now going to quote this woman every single time they want to deny us our civil rights.”
OK, before y’all go crazy ranting against her, I must say I do understand her position. Sexuality is more complex than we think it is. And I’m not saying this implying that I’ve had relationships with girls with the same intensity and dept as with boys, not at all. But rather what I’m saying is that if you look at the Kinsey Scale, you’ll understand why is that other people may share Cynthia’s views and experiences. Bisexual views and experiences.
Her, saying that it’s a choice, might as well be taken as having decided to pursue a relationship with people of both genders at different stages in her life, because at the end we don’t really have much of a say when we fall in love for someone, and if she has fallen for both men and women.
This might be seen, for many, as an attempt to label everybody’s sexuality. Some don’t like that, some need to put a name to whatever they feel is their Sexual Orientation. And that’s OK. We shouldn’t have a problem with accepting other people’s choice for labelling themselves or not. And if that’s how she feels, she has the right to say so. However, we do find ourselves in the need of labelling her so others understand better that this isn’t an excuse to deny us out rights. Label or not, bisexual or gay, nature or nurture, discrimination is never justifiable.
Canada: “Gay Pinguins” Buddy & Pedro Split Up, One Mating With Female
With information of The Canadian Press, The Huffington Post reports:
Buddy and Pedro, once one of Toronto’s hottest “It” couples, have broken up amid pregnancy rumours and a budding relationship with what those on Team Pedro will undoubtedly call a femme fatale. It only took Buddy 72 hours to bond with Farai, a female penguin he was matched with on Nov. 19, after being separated from Pedro. Handlers at the Toronto Zoo split up the pair out of concern the same-sex bond would hamper breeding efforts. Pedro has yet to get lucky, but zoo officials say it’s not for a lack of trying. "Pedro is very ready to go, per se, but his prospective mate Thandiwey is a little shy," Tom Mason, the zoo’s curator of birds and invertebrates, said Monday. "She’s not quite ready to go yet but they’re beginners, they’re just starting life as a pair." The story of the star-crossed birds took on a life of its own when the two African penguins, dubbed Toronto’s “gay penguins,” became an Internet sensation last month amid outrage over their pending separation. Some cheeky headlines dubbed theirs “the love that dare squawk its name,” while late-night TV comic Jimmy Kimmel took on the story during a monologue, calling it “Brokeback Iceberg.” But Mason emphasized their bond was social, not sexual � and not at all uncommon. The two simply had each other’s backs, he said, and preferred each other’s company to that of other penguins. "We don’t think of gay penguins," he said. "They’re bonded pairs, they break up in the wild, they break up in captivity." The bromance was doomed from the start, said Mason. The zoo simply had to intervene to ensure the bachelor penguins chose wisely and made the right genetic match, he explained. And unlike the love affairs of other celebrity couples, when Pedro and Buddy split, it was the real thing. "There will be a dozen birds swimming around together and they’ll interact in that respect, but as for going into the corner, Buddy and Pedro, I don’t believe that will happen," Mason said. "They’ll go into a corner and it will be Buddy and Farai and hopefully Pedro with Thandiwey." Zoo officials are hoping the first babies will come by April, and “given the amount of breeding activity,” it could happen as early as January if an egg is laid soon. Buddy, who is 21, had a female mate for 10 years and produced some offspring before his partner died. Pedro, 10, has yet to produce any offspring.
Do Straight-Identify Guys Like Watching Guy-Girl Porn Because They’re Secretly Bi?
Once upon a time, a straight-identified co-worker told me that he only feels closure with a porn scene if a guy delivers the money shot. Female orgasm? Completely disinterested. But seeing a dude cum? That’s the stuff! I told him his desire to see a guy cum sounded pretty gay and, well, he reluctantly agreed. But did my co-worker have secret bi desires or was I just being a prick? The answer to both is yes and no. Amy Andre from The Bilerico Project wrote a sexcellent article this week describing the recent success of James Deen (pictured right), an unconventionally twinkish young star whose made a big, girthy name for himself in male-female porn. Andre basically asks, “Who is responsible for Deen’s success? Female porn buyers who like Deen’s look or males who feel the same?” The entire article is worth reading because it gets to the heart of why straight guys wanna see dicks in male-female porn. But here’s one of Andre’s big takeaways: Male porn performers look the way they do because porn is usually made with a male audience in mind… if straight mentruly didn’t want to be distracted by seeing a man in a film (either because they don’t find men attractive, or because, uh-oh, they do, and can’t handle their own attraction to guys!), straight men wouldn’t watch any porn with men in it… This doesn’t mean that the straight-identified men watching male-female porn are “secretly” bi… straight-identified men… want to identify with [guys in heater porn]—and imagine themselves attracting such beautiful women—or… erotically enjoy looking at him—the way they enjoy looking at the women he’s with. …A man can be as straight as an arrow, in terms of consistency of using the term “straight” to identify himself, and still enjoy watching another man sexually. Whenever I comment on women being hot, straight guy friends will ask me, “Wait… you still find women attractive?” And I respond, “Yeah, I’m gay. I’m not blind.” And it seems straight-identified men, when they allow themselves to admit it, find men physically attractive too. The human body is innately sexy and it seems that a majority of guys feel that they vicariously score whenever a fellow dude scores in the sack too. I’m not entirely sure how women feel about all this, but they seem every bit as sexual as men in many of the same ways—it’s probably just that they’re less prone to admit it.
The Ides of March actress Evan Rachel Wood confirms that she identifies as bisexual and reveals whether costar Marisa Tomei is her type, in an interview with GQ.
Wood, who came out as bisexual in an interview with Esquire magazine in April, is now asked if it was just a one-girl thing. “I’ve been that way since I can remember,” Wood replies. “I remember growing up and loving when I knew there was a girl like me who I looked up to. I figured I should return the favor. You don’t have to be ashamed.”
GQ also asks if she’s attracted to Tomei, who has costarred twice in films with Wood. “Um, I mean, she’s beautiful,” Wood says with a laugh. “I don’t know. I don’t think so.”
Topping off an already fantastic month in which researchers reported that male bisexuality does indeed exist, new reports from the deep say the orientation is a bit more widespread. According toGawker, a whole species of squid Octopoteuthis deletron (a five-and-a-half-inch deep-sea squid that lives a solitary life up to half a mile down in the dark waters of the Pacific Ocean) is ostensibly bisexual. Gawker quotes researcher Hendrik J.T. Hoving saying, “Male squid, for example, pay no attention to the sex of other squid. Understandably so. They live alone in the dark, males and females are hard to tell apart, and only occasionally do squids pass in the night. Far better to risk wasting a few million sperm than to miss out on a chance to reproduce.” While researchers argue the sexual orientation of the squid is nothing like human behavior, the news, reported in Hoving’s paper, “A Shot in the Dark: Same-Sex Sexual Behavior in a Deep-Sea Squid,” no doubt has many fans of same-sex animal couplings positively giddy.
Steve Jones, the 34-year-old Welshman and host of the upcoming American version of The X-Factor, says that he enjoys the company of both men and women in the September issue of Details. “Yeah, I’ve always done okay with the ladies,” he replies, when the interviewer points out that Jones has been romantically linked to Pamela Anderson, Rose McGowan, and Hayden Panettiere. “God, that sounds awful. I just love the company of women. And men, too. I enjoy the company of both sexes. Otherwise, you’re missing out on half the population. Don’t be so restrictive, you know? Men and women, I’m happy…” Adds the interviewer, “To spend time with?” “Thanks for finishing that off, so it’s not open to interpretation.” The former Versace model, who appeared shirtless on the cover of Attitude in 2008, told the U.K. gay magazine that he was jealous of gay men and their seemingly active sex lives. “You lucky bastards,” he said. “I would give anything to have that kind of lifestyle — but the girls won’t have it.”
The NYT covers the “science discovers bisexual men exist" story. Science reporter David Tuller overlooks the science-proves-bi-guys-exist-by-doing-exactly-what-bi-activists-condemn-as-biphobic angle—the angle I ran with in this post about the study last week—focusing instead on the there’s-just-no-pleasing-some-people angle:
A widely publicized study published in 2005, also by researchers at Northwestern, reported that “with respect to sexual arousal and attraction, it remains to be shown that male bisexuality exists.” That conclusion outraged bisexual men and women, who said it appeared to support a stereotype of bisexual men as closeted homosexuals. In the new study, published online in the journal Biological Psychology, the researchers relied on more stringent criteria for selecting participants….
The new Northwestern study was financed in part by the American Institute of Bisexuality, a group that promotes research and education regarding bisexuality. Still, advocates expressed mixed feelings about the research. Jim Larsen, 53, a chairman of the Bisexual Organizing Project, a Minnesota-based advocacy group, said the findings could help bisexuals still struggling to accept themselves.
“It’s great that they’ve come out with affirmation that bisexuality exists,” he said. “Having said that, they’re proving what we in the community already know. It’s insulting. I think it’s unfortunate that anyone doubts an individual who says, ‘This is what I am and who I am.’”
Yeah, it’s unfortunate when anyone doubts an individual who says “this is what I am and who I am.” I mean, think of how much Ted Haggard, Phillip Hinkle, and Marcus Bachmann have suffered, right? But it was only after researchers dropped guys from the study that they didn’t actually believe to be bi—it was only after they acted on the doubts they had about some guys who claimed to be bi—that they were able to get this data. So… doubt’s a double-edged sword.
A new book sheds light on the life outside of art and fashion that influential designer Gabrielle “Coco” Chanel led. In Coco Chanel: An Intimate Life, biographer Lisa Chaney wrote that Chanel had intimate affairs with other women as well as artists like Salvador Dalí and a German man named Hans Günther von Dincklage who also might have been a Nazi spy. According to the publisher, Chaney was able to draw upon newly discovered letters and records to connect the missing pieces of Chanel’s storied life. "Unearthing an astonishing life, this remarkable biography shows how, more than any previous designer, Chanel became synonymous with a rebellious and progressive style," says the book’s description. ”Her numerous liaisons, whose poignant and tragic details have eluded all previous biographers, were the very stuff of legend.”
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